The holiday office party can be a fun way for employees to celebrate a successful year, but in the era of the “Me too” movement, it can also provoke anxiety for both organizers and attendees.
With that push and pull, Virginia Tech Pamplin College of Business Professor Bill Becker said some companies are thinking of canceling holiday parties altogether, but he doesn鈥檛 think that鈥檚 the answer.
“Keep in mind that these events are really important to employees and send a signal to employees that the organization values them,” Becker said, noting that it’s a way a business can thank its staff for a year of hard work. “So, I think it鈥檚 shortsighted to get rid of them or really scale them back too much.鈥�
Instead, he suggested trying to prevent office party problems before they happen. Consider spelling out rules and guidelines, perhaps on the invitation or in an email, making it clear that inappropriate conduct won鈥檛 be tolerated.
鈥淢ake it very clear ahead of time that this is a time to celebrate each other and that means being respectful; mutual respect and keeping in mind this is a work event and we are all still co-workers and need to treat each other with the utmost respect,” Becker said.
Becker said it’s even a good idea to consider pulling aside employees who may potentially cause problems for a one-on-one chat ahead of time.
鈥淪aying: 鈥楬ey, we want you there, and we think you鈥檙e great, but just remember, this is a time for everyone to have a good time,'” Becker said. 鈥淲ithout having to be too direct, I think a lot can be done one-on-one.鈥�
Beyond unwanted flirtations or even sexual harassment, some businesses may be worried about employees who don鈥檛 know when to stop drinking. If that’s the case, Becker said, hold the party somewhere where alcohol is not the focus. You can even limit or monitor alcohol consumption.
Also, he said, don鈥檛 add stress to the already stressful holiday season. Some employees may feel pressure to attend a holiday event, thinking that their job security may be tied to their appearance at a party. Make it clear they don’t have to attend, and the invitation is just an offer for them to enjoy an event, but it doesn’t reflect on their employment if they don鈥檛 attend.
As a business owner, if you can support the added head count, consider encouraging employees to invite their spouses or significant others, or even adding some activities for kids so employees can bring their whole family.
鈥淭hat helps us to get out of the work mind a little bit and get into our other roles,鈥� he said. 鈥淪ometimes things are antagonistic at work, but if we have our significant other there, or our kids there, it keeps us in touch with the person that we are instead of just the worker that we are.鈥�
Becker said, if you鈥檙e an employee going to the holiday party, make sure you have the right mindset. Consider going to the party with the goal of learning something new about your co-workers, or getting to know someone you hadn’t known before.
That kind of goal can keep you on track, and prevent you from waking up the next day wondering if you might have misbehaved.
鈥淜eep in mind, this a time of added tension, and maybe a little anxiety. Try to not compensate for that by drinking too much. Sometimes when we鈥檙e a little uncomfortable, we tend to compensate with other things, and maybe alcohol is not the best choice.鈥�
